Some relationships are like bandaids.
I have a bandaid that I need to rip off. This past week, I finally did. I erased her number from my phone, and I unfriended her on Facebook. This is really hard for me, as I thought for the longest time we were friends. I was wrong, or her definition of friends is very different from my own. I tried to do the long distance, just let it die by ignoring her kind of friendship ending, but it didn't work. I still worry about her too much. And then I initiate contact and there goes all my hard work. Ugh.
My poor best friend has listened to me constantly complain about this other person for 2+ years. Very patiently, and very supportively. You know, like a real friend. Friendship is give and take, to the point where you don't even keep count anymore. Not give give give.
Clues I should have listened to: her humiliating me on Facebook. Her not telling her closest friends in person (or via text, email, phone call) when she was pregnant. Facebook announcement anyone? There are lots of others, but I'm not listing them here. I'm not trying to be mean and vengeful. Just hoping other people learn.
I don't like her. I don't like her personality. I never really got to know if before, due to extenuating circumstances, but it's really awful. It is hard to know if she asked you to be in her wedding because you're her fat friend that makes her look thinner. Or if she ridicules you behind her back. She is demeaning of her friends, she can never be satisfied, and all it brings out in me is this absolutely horrid cruelty that I hate. I hate it in others, and I hate it in myself. Thinking of her and talking about her, with her, makes me sick. So I can't be friends with her anymore.
(Image found on Facebook. Happy to give credit if anyone knows where this is from.)